How not to treat a survivor

Whether we mean to or not, sometimes what we think is going to be helpful, is sometimes, well not. This is not meant to offend anyone, but a look into how helpfulness can be perceived by survivors.

"I don't want people walking on eggshells around me or treat me like I'm so fragile that I'll break. If I was fragile I would have shattered a long time ago. What happened to me was unfortunate but it hasn't and will not break me. I can't live my life afraid of being triggered or upset because that is letting him win. I don't want people being afraid either. People may think they are helping but honestly it just upsets me. Instead people can listen to me when I choose to talk about whatever and validating me and believing me.

I am working towards the best life possible with my husband.

Recap: I'm not broken, fragile, damaged... None of those things."

You are not broken, fragile or damaged either!

Love always,

Katie

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